The Epitome of Letting Go

“Little Did You Know” is the podcast YOU need to navigate your 20s, your mental health and your relationships. It’s an honor and a blessing to be invited to these discussions to inspire people and share my message. The last interview was on “The ReCharge Your Life Podcast” with inspirational stories of everyday people. In this interview, I share my story of dealing with rejection and you will learn how you cannot be responsible for the actions of others, only your own.

Letting Go of Abandonment

After a brief introduction, I shared my story of being abandoned by my biological parents and separated from as early as 5 years old. I never found out why it happened and I always wondered what was wrong with me. It was traumatizing. My biological father past away about 11 years ago. We had a one-on-one talk before he passed and he did apologize for what happened. We got closer about 2 to 3 years before he passed away but I never got any answers from my biological mother at all. Me and my sister had to learn to accept it and move on. Even though my parents made this adult decision, they really robbed us of a really tight sibling relationship. If I grew up with my older sister then I would have had her to speak to when I was going through those tough and traumatic situations in my early teens.

The host asked how I overcame those experiences of childhood abandonment. What were the steps I took that helped me.

It’s a process. It’s not an overnight fix. I still struggle with abandonment and rejection. I had to learn to accept it and continue this process of healing. I had to understand these feelings of abandonment and rejection and where it all came from in order to continue to work on myself, move on and live a good, healthy, positive life.

First I had to accept. Before accepting, I went through a phase of denial, guilt and shame. It wasn’t unti I wrote it down, expressed it and released it publicly that l accepted that yes, IT DID HAPPEN! As I wrote each chapter, I was crying and I had 3 to 4 sessions with my therapist who helped me open my eyes and accept all that had happened. So the first step that I encourage everyone to take is to first accept. I was able to recognize and accept all that had happened, both the mistakes and things that were beyond my control, before making a choice of how I now want to live my life.

How do you want your life to be? Do you feel like you can continue to live with anxiety? depression? impulsiveness?

Not All Relationships Are Healthy Ones.

Today, I still live in my hometown and my mother still doesn’t even accept me or my children. But I did my own part. I wanted all my children to know the truth of who their grandmother is. Whether she wants a relationship with them or not is her own decision. When you start being accountable for what you do and not what others do, that is the step to progress.

The host spoke about her own family issues as well and how her family is a big hot mess! There are things her mother has done that she doesn’t like but she still plays her own part and messages her to nurture their relationship although she does not always respond.