Healing From Child Abuse and Neglect

Heal. Thrive. Dream.

The Heal Thrive Dream Podcast is a platform to bring compassion, comfort, and healing to professional mothers recovering from child abuse and neglect. After the last talk on “From Survivor to Thriver,” It was a pleasure to be invited for another interview to share my story to encourage others to begin a process of healing.

Child Abuse & Neglect

The host started by introducing me and asking what inspired me to write the book. She also asked what was the most challenging aspect of being adopted.

It was finding the true essence of my life from the starting of my foundation all the way to where I am now.

I knew my biological parents up until 5. The biggest challenge was the feeling of rejection, abandonment and not feeling loved by my biological mom. I started having thoughts of what is wrong with me? Was I not quiet enough? Was I not good enough? I tried everything to feel the love of my mother. My sister and biological dad loved me but I always knew there was a disconnection from my biological mother so there was a challenge of yearning for that motherly love. Another challenge was that no-one told me anything. I had no voice, I was just dropped off. No-one shared anything with me or even asked me.

The host also asked about the child abuse and neglect I went through as a child in a disconnected household.

Even combing my hair was harsh. It was not a loving touch. I remember just trying to do everything I could for her to love me. As I got older, I always still yearned for her acceptance and her love. The harshest part was her not even accepting my children. She made it obvious that she still does not want to have a relationship with me or my children. I had to accept and let it go. I had to find peace within because I did all that I could but I was not going to be responsible or carry that weight of her behavior and actions. I still never got any answers on why she was like that. She just had other kids by my father after I was separated and adopted and they eventually got a divorce.

Some People Are God-Sent

I never asked for her to give up time, just to start a relationship with me as her daughter. That is something I had to accept that she did not want to give. I had to then embrace that God will take care of that void, and He has! God has brought some beautiful women into my life. I have a beautiful godmother and I went on my first cruise and airplane trip with her. She took me shopping and made sure she was there for my graduation. She made sure I went across that stage and got that degree!

The host asked how I turned out so well after having a mom who didn’t care.

My adopted parents did the best they could. They had no training but they were very religious. They believed prayer was the key. If they had not stepped into my life and opened their heart then I would not be here to tell my story. I have to say that they were definitely a part of how well I turned out. They planted the seeds.