Breaking Cycles To Find Freedom

Unbreakable Spirit

The Unbreakable Spirit with Jennifer Seven features stories of real women who have overcome tremendous obstacles and come out on the other side to thrive. It is about digging deep into your soul, finding the light out of the dark, and rising from the ashes to live a joyful and an authentic life. It was a pleasure to be invited to an interview to share my story of breaking cycles to find freedom. After the host introduced me, I started by sharing my story…

I am an inspirational speaker who is passionate about encouraging and being transparent about what I had to live through. Being the best person that I can be, not just for myself but for my family and career. Once I am able to choose me first, then I can give others the best of me. ~ K.I.M

Accept & Embrace It All

I came up with Accept and Embrace it all because I had to accept some things that I had to embrace that had to change. The broken foundation, the abandonment, the rejection. As well as the depression and anxiety that a lot of women have dealt with because they have never found self-worth and self-love.

The host asked me to go back in time and share some of the things that I have been through.

My abandonment and rejection issues come from the initial 6yrs of my life. I shared the story of abuse and rejection. There was nothing I could do to get that attention from my parents. My search for acceptance led me into relationships that were very toxic and very unhealthy but I did not identify the fact that this brokenness actually came from my childhood.

My first experience with sexual intimacy at 12 yrs old came from an extended family member who groomed me. He said “I love you Kimmy, no one loves you like I do.” What he was doing was very confusing but he would say it a lot and make me believe it. But he had done time earlier for molesting an infant and everyone knew this. But my adopted parents allowed him to stay as long as he had a relationship with God. I was very depressed after this incident and I never told my adopted mom until I became an adult.

Breaking Cycles

I dealth with trying to find love in all the wrong places, gravitating to anyone who will accept me or validate me instead of accepting me for how I was created. I did not have any sibling to speak to. It was just church and my adopted parents. I was just out there, curious, searching for love in the wrong places. I ended up getting pregnant at 15. Eventually the relationship became a physical and verbally abusive one. This was the first time I was hit and I remembered the same thing happening to my biological mom so I thought it was normal.

By 11th grade I had dropped out of school and had to get a job to support my children. I had a second child on the way because I had met another guy from the military who was more supportive so I introduced him to my adopted parents. They believed that I had to marry him because you do not live with a man who is not married to you. But the marriage didn’t last a year because we were both too young and not ready. I went through other unhealthy and toxic relationships and eventually I had one that was the worst and I had to make a decision that enough is enough. I had to change my mindset and focus on loving me instead. The process of change all started with me breaking cycles before I could find freedom. I had to seek mental health instead and get to the root of my problems.